When your Russian bride comes to the States, it might be important for her to find a community of Russian-speaking people who would share with her some information about the local specifics and things. Let her form her own circle of Russian acquaintances. It will help your future Russian wife get used to the new environment and cope with the cultural shock.
You might think that you can explain your own culture better to her, but it is not the point. The members of the Russian emigrants’ community will share with her some important information and their own understanding of the local events through the lens of the Russian culture. She will know about the lessons learnt during their stay in America and be better prepared to living here.
There are both positive and negative outcomes of her joining a Russian emigrants’ club or community. On the one hand, your wife will feel thoroughly equipped with knowledge and better adjusted to her new life in the States. On the other hand, she might start comparing you with her new friends’ husbands and your lifestyle with theirs. It is natural for Russian women to discuss in detail such issues as their income, or personal relationships, by the way.
When you marry a person belonging to another culture, you have to be very flexible and understanding to make your relationship work. It will be easier for you to accept your wife’s cultural specifics if you show your interest and learn about them beforehand. It goes without saying that the positive side of your wife’s joining a Russian-speaking community in the States outweighs the negative one. So think how she can find and meet with these people. In addition, if she finds out that she is not interested in communicating with them, the issue will automatically be out of your agenda.
