When You Marry a Russian Lady, Do You Marry The Whole Family?

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Russian ladies make good and supportive wives, but before proposing to your sweetheart it is wise to get to know her family better.

Russian people usually have very tight family relations and are used to relying on each other. It is very common when older and younger generations of one family live under the same roof. Individualism and egocentrism are foreign to traditional upbringing in Russian families. Family is still one of the highest values in the Russian culture.

Getting introduced to and learning about your future father and mother in law may save you some difficulties in the future. You are going to become part of their family. As minimum, you should respect their culture and traditions. Your future wife is a member of a very this family too, that is the point. If you understand that simple thing, it will become much easier for you to communicate with your new relatives.

When you get married, remember to ask your wife about her parents and family and how things are going on in Russia from time to time. This will make your relations even stronger, because she will see that you do care for her and her feelings after leaving Russia. Most probably, she will miss her mother and father and other close relatives and friends a lot. She will be grateful to you for your efforts to understand and accept her feelings, and your sincere support will contribute to making your marriage fulfilling and successful.

Choosing a Russian Romance Tour

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Some international marriage agencies organize the so-called Russian romance tours, which present a good opportunity to western men in finding their future wives in Russia. If you fail to find a potential bride meeting your criteria online, then contact the bride tour agency and ask for guidance and help. Professional matchmakers know their female clients well and they will do everything in their power to find the right single woman for you. The prices depend on the period of your stay and the regional specifics of the area you are going to.

The matchmakers usually convene a group of western men and take care of all the logistics. When you arrive to a certain city or town in Russia, the agency invites single Russian females registered with them to gather in a restaurant or another place to meet with the male candidates from abroad. There are always much more women than men at these events.

The organizers do their best to create a friendly atmosphere and make you feel at ease. All the participants have badges with their names on them. You can freely walk around to get introduced to all women you like. It is an opportunity to exchange telephone numbers, mail addresses and any contact details that will help you keep in touch after you leave Russia.

It is great if you get prepared by listing clear criteria for your search. Keep in mind what is important for you in the relationship and ask the key questions to the female candidates you meet. Always take notes, because you will be most probably overwhelmed by the information you get during these meetings.

There are no rules about how much time you should spend with the women you meet during the tour events. You can pay a little attention to everyone or focus your interest only on one lady. Anyway, try to filter your dating prospects and be only with those who are meeting your interests and needs.

If you feel unsatisfied with the candidates you meet, apply for assistance to the agency every time you need it. Do not wait until the end of the tour. Last but not least, if you have communication problems during these dates, ask your agency for a professional interpreter. Understanding small language nuances plays a key role in establishing successful communication with the women you like.

True Things about Russian Women

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There are many myths about Russian women that are invented by some internet marriage agencies in order to attract more men to pay for their services.

For example, there is a widespread myth that Russian ladies prefer traditional marriage with strictly determined gender roles. This myth implies that they serve their husbands and children like slaves, and are happy about being housewives.

It is important to remember that being family-focused is quite different from the model drawn above. In Russia, modern women usually work equally with men to provide for the family. Many of them manage to develop their careers and be competent and successful professionals. But this does not prevent Russian women from being family-focused. They do care for their families and make loyal wives and nurturing mothers.

In addition, the myth about traditional and submissive Russian wives creates an impression that one can treat them without respect, like domestic servants. It is not true, of course. Russian women are looking for fulfilling relationship in equal partnership with western men to build strong and happy families with. They also seek economic security and stability in marriage. Remember that both partners should invest a lot into the relationship to make an international marriage work. So think twice when you read the statement that Russian women are easy to marry.

Scammers and Russian Brides

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Scam matchmaking agencies functioning in many cities of the former Soviet Union prefer anonymity. They do not provide any contact information about their offices and never give any reliable information to their customers. Fake Russian bride agencies do not advertise their services either.

The scheme of their work is pretty simple. They place some girls’ photos at various Internet websites where this service is free of charge. The “girls” are usually married young women who need money. They are not untrue to their husbands. They are not going to look for new partners from abroad. These ladies just bring their photos to the agencies and the agencies do the rest of the work.

The scammers choose a web resource where their fake bride can be registered, and start exchanging correspondence with men on her behalf. Remember that men pay for all the services provided by the scam marriage agency. The “bride” will get a certain sum of money for her fiancés’ expenses. Gradually, the poor guys fall in love with the beauties and start planning their trips to Russia to meet with them in person. They expect a warm reception from the women with whom they have found so much in common during their communication. Finally, when these men arrive to Russia, their ladies give the cold shoulder to them. Men obediently pay for all the services that include lodging, hiring an interpreter and a personal driver who also work for the agency, etc. When everything is paid for, they are left alone and have to go back home dumbstruck and confused. In the meantime, their ladies get their share of profit.

So be very careful when you plan your first meeting with your Russian fiancé. Observe what kind of arrangements she wants to make, for example whether she wants to have her own interpreter or a personal driver. If you are going to meet in a third country, an alarming sign is when she would want to bring an interpreter with her.

What Is Wrong With Russian Men?

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One comment before proceeding with this article: it does not and cannot describe the situation of all Russian women who want to find their husbands abroad with the help of online matchmaking services. Nevertheless, there are some common reasons that make them look for their “second halves” in another country.

The main reason that makes beautiful Russian ladies register with Internet dating and marriage agencies is the realization of the fact that the majority of local men do not meet their criteria at all. It is a widespread observation that many Russian men are drunkards, womanizers and women abusers rolled into one. The level of domestic violence is really high in Russia: at least 10,000 women are killed by their spouses or partners annually.

Of course, not every man would beat and abuse his girlfriend or wife. Nevertheless, women’s common perception of men in the former Soviet Union countries is that they are infantile, shallow-hearted, rude and lazy. In addition, women who have ever encountered or, worse, lived with this type of men feel emotionally, physically and economically insecure.

Historically, women in Russia were the keepers of the family. They worked hard for the sake of their big families, including husbands, children and other relatives, putting aside their own needs. Modern Russian women are both independent and capable of giving. They still value family ties and are loving and caring.

Taking into consideration everything mentioned above, it becomes clear that Russian women apply for the services of matchmaking agencies to meet decent and responsible men to form loving and fulfilling relationships with. They look for compatible partners whom they can rely on and trust, because they failed to meet a person like that in their own country.

The Visa Issue

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When you have found your Russian love and decided to get married, what is the right way to do it?

In this situation, she will have to apply for a special immigrant visa, which is called "K1-fiancée visa." Start searching for the information at the official US Embassy site in Moscow, or type the word-combination "k1-fiancée visa" in any search service online. The most crucial thing you both will have to do is keeping track of all documentation proving that your relations have been serious. These can be your emails to each other, pictures together, travel tickets, phone and hotel bills that provide the information about your relationship and visits to Russia (or other country). The photos and documents with your names on them would convince the Consulate officer that your connection is not fake, and there is no evidence of sham marriage (e.g. for the purpose of getting green card).

Learn carefully about all the official requirements and documents needed for the application for the K1-fiancée visa at different visa services and support sites, especially that of the US Embassy in Moscow.

Keep it in mind that once she gets her K1-fiancée visa approved, you need to get married during 90 days since then. Otherwise, she will have to return to her country.